Leadership Doesn't Equal Domination

I was watching Jimmy Evans today. He's one of my favorite voices on marriage.
Today as I was watching, he said something that made me drop what I was doing and run to my blog!
I see so many couples struggle with this one issue: leadership. And the problem of leading looking like domination or a dictatorship.
In my opinion, men hear they are to LEAD the home and they come home (to tell their wife about their new found epiphany) beating their chest, telling their wife they are the leader of the home. This leaves the woman very confused, for she already knew this and was just waiting for him to decide to lead in certain areas. And as he lets out his Tarzan war cry, she just wonders where he's been all her life, no REALLY! I mean, when this happened to me, I wondered, WHO are you and what have you done with my husband. Why do you want to take away my say so in everything and call it "leading?"
The tendency is to take that "leadership" and shove it right down their wife's throat, or that's what I have seen happen more than a few times. I get very frustrated because many times a man hears this as he is seeking help for his possibly already rocky marriage. I just want to say LEADERSHIP doesn't equal dominating your wife. It doesn't mean telling her what is best for her. It doesn't mean taking away her right to weigh in on important issues or non important issues with the family, as a whole or individually. It doesn't mean choosing to do things without even talking to her anymore. And it doesn't mean you get to do what YOU want. Please reread that last sentence.
After watching Jimmy for a few minutes today, this is what I felt said what leadership actually IS. This is straight from Jimmy, almost word for word, "Women need to feel secure. Money is  a very important part of a woman feeling secure.  Another thing women need is leadership. Every woman wants her husband to lead her, not to dominate her, but to be an equal partner. Women need a man to initiate the well being of the home, romantically, spiritually, with kids and money. Her security is derived from knowing her husband is tuned in and being responsible in that area."
What I want you to get out of that is that women don't need some Tarzan, hairy chest-beating, war cry screaming MAN. We need a man to INITIATE, not TAKE OVER. We need them to NOT DO BY THEMSELVES because they want to, because they want to feel totally responsible. But to take upon themselves the well being of our family and home.  Staying tuned in and responsible. Being sure to look after the best interests of everyone. Part of that includes listening to your wife who will have great insight to what is truly best for the children, since she probably spends more time one on one with them!
I wish I had more time, but I hope you heard what I said. I really feel there is such confusion in the church about what being a leader of the household is all about and personally after reading Proverbs 31, and seeing the WOMAN being the DOER of the household, I'm not so sure we've appropriately named leader of the household. What a woman does while her man is away at work is lead the household, quite literally, what a man is supposed to do, it seems to me is lead the household, figuratively. Just meaning that the term is figurative, what they are DOING is not figurative. But action oriented! So, when a man leads his family, he takes the responsibility for his family, or household. I hope that last part didn't confuse you. I got into semantics there, sorry!

Osmosis new "RESTORE"

Osmosis RESTORE



I'm so excited about this new product! I haven't got to try it out yet, it's still in the preorder phase, but for all ladies who fight melasma, age spots, freckling and aging in general, there is a new player on the field!
I love the brand Osmosis because they produce medical grade products with safe, effective ingredients, including botanticals, essential oils and with leading edge technology to fight aging with grace and dignity! They aren't just concerned with looking good, but being healthy from the inside out!
They offer products and ingredients you might not be familiar with, but once you are acquainted, you'll be as excited as I am!
Restore has big shoes to fill as Osmosis says it can provide a permanent solution for existing melasma and hyperpigmentation.

"Restore is designed to improve and strengthen the body and skin for overall wellness. It will assist in treating and preventing disease thus enabling a healthy life. Should you be experiencing any of the below conditions, it is recommended to use Restore daily.

• Aging body and skin (all ages)
• Melasma, Hyperpigmentation, Liver and Age Spots
• Weak or Suppressed Immune System
• Disease or Illness
• Deteriorating Organs or Joints

If you are like me, you want to know what is in it and is it safe?

The primary ingredient in Restore is sweet wormwood extract. Restore utilizes a special extraction process that dramatically increases its potency. Research has been done on this supplement for over 2 decades and it has been FDA approved in Kenya (the eighth largest research center in the world) for the treatment of many different medical conditions. "  Osmosis website

Restore actually repairs proteins that have been damaged by free radicals.
Osmosis says, "Research shows that likely causes of aging are the accumulation of free radicals and protein damage found in the body. Protein oxidation occurs daily in our cells and is also the result of free radicals with the buildup of this damage, premature aging occurs. No longer is treating free-radicals enough to prevent aging. Restore enhances the body's ability to repair broken (toxic) proteins considerably, thereby reducing the progression of aging, disease, and inflammation."

I'll post a follow up when I get a chance to have some experience with this wonderful product!

Flu Shots...........more bad news

I ran across this information while looking for information on vaccinations in general. "If an individual has had 5 consecutive flu shots between 1970 - 1980 (the years of the study) his/her chance of developing Alzheimer's Disease is 10 times greater than if they had 1, two or no shots." When asked why, Dr. Fudenberg stated that it is due to the mercury and aluminum buildup that is in EVERY flu shot (and in almost all childhood shots). The gradual mercury and aluminum buildup in the brain causes cognitive dysfunction. Dr. Fudenberg's comments above were from his speech at the NVIC International Vaccine Conference, Arlington VA September, 1997. <<<< http://healthread.net/flushot-alzheimers.htm I'm sick and tired of doctors cramming as many shots into visits as they can and being bullied by doctors and staff into thinking if I don't vaccinate myself and my children for EVERYTHING they offer and practically require, that I'm a bad parent. I think in 10 years I'll be joined by TONS of my friends and family who will realize I wasn't crazy, that alot of reading on the internet (of medical journals, reviews, doctors notes, etc) pays off! I think it's crazy that we so blindly follow a "medical PRACTICE." Sorry for the rambling, I've got a good 5 minutes to get this out while Rylan plays on the floor happily. I no longer blindly accept what doctors tell me. ??) I'm not into handing my health over to folks whose main medical training and reasoning is backed up by pharmacy companies who are making billions of dollars off people who blindly walk into doctors offices everyday and take the advice of any person in a white coat. I believe alot of medical school knowledge is OUTDATED and has not been proven, many things are taught solely because it was published in a book. It wasn't verified and it was knowledge put together 50 years ago and hasn't been researched any further since then. Did you know doctors don't even study nutrition in medical school??? Or they haven't in the past???? We need to require more from our medical community. I'm starting by taking the information I find and sharing it with my doctor. Should be very interesting conversation. Esp since his last words to me were, vaccinations are VERY SAFE!!!!!!

Where the Magic Happens!

Have you ever wondered where I make this magical makeup??? I don't know why it's never occurred to me to let you all see where I make Lisha Lynn, but I spent all day Sunday cleaning up this room and I'm ready to show it off! And by cleaning, I mean C L E A N. When you make makeup that is ALL made of POWDERS, it's a MESS, hence, the plastic! I didn't get a before, and if I had, not sure I would show it :) I didn't think to get a picture until I had worked for hours cleaning containers, dusting shelves, vacuuming the floor, and washing ingredient containers. I also finally got reorganized! It took awhile to label everything too! I love my little label machine! This shelf has my jars, bottles and skincare on it.

This table holds my ingredients and mixer and is the tabletop where I mix all the fabulous shades of Lisha Lynn! It never stays this clean :(

This is my shelf of finished products......I keep quite an inventory of ready to jar makeup on hand.

This cool rack holds my finished products that are jarred and labeled!

Some shots of the room.

New Finishing Powder for Maturing Skin!!!!

I just finished working on a brand new finishing powder that will do everything the Glowing Perfection did: give your makeup staying power and give you a smoother, more finished "look," PLUS it will enhance the youthful tones of the skin, while reducing the dull, flat look we get as our skin ages!!!
This new formula contains a new ingredient that helps skin reflect light as it did in it's youth!!! There is a very technical way to explain this, but it would take two paragraphs, so I'm going to use layman's terms here. As we age from sun exposure, our skin stops emitting or reflecting light as it did in our youth, resulting in a duller, wrinkled appearance. So, with a few strokes of powder, more youthful skin emerges as the appearance of shadows, wrinkles, pigmentations and discolorations are diminished!!! It will take a few minutes for the powder to react with your skin and light for the finished look.
I haven't decided on a name.....want to help me come up with one?? Leave me your ideas on my comments or facebook page!!!
Ok, here is my before, with just makeup on!

and after with new Finishing Powder! Notice pores are smaller and I look "smoother." I may not have waited long enough for all the "colors" to show up and my skin is certainly not "mature" enough to have totally lost the ability to reflect the colors anyway. More mature skin will see more results! However, I did notice the shadows under my eye were better!

Flu Shot Advocate got flu ANYWAY last year!!!!!

I just saw Dr. Jennifer Ashton on the Early Show talking about why we all need the flu vaccine. For those of you who don't know how I feel about the flu shot, let me tell you. I despise it.
I can't go into all the details now, but just take into consideration that you are always being vaccinated for last year's strain (they can't keep up with it quick enough to vaccinate with what is actually going around), it has mercury in it, over two times the recommended amount. And what is most appalling to me is that they recommend this shot to pregnant women!!! You can receive a no-mercury dose, but your insurance probably won't cover it and it costs over $200 I believe!
So, Dr. Ashton mentions all the reasons why you should have one.......200,000 are hospitalized every year with the flu (actual low numbers for an illness, missed work days, etc. SHE, HERSELF, lost a WEEK out with the flu last year!!! So, I wondered, did SHE GET the vaccine last year????
http://www.cbsnews.com/video/watch/?id=6918103n&tag=mncol;lst;2
She sure did, that link from last year shows her talking about getting the vaccines and vaccinating herself and her kids. Guess who got the flu ANYWAY??? That's RIGHT, SHE DID!!!
So, how effective is that ol' vaccine???? Not very, but somehow they think it's worth the risk to dose yourself with live viruses and mercury??? Ok, didn't have time to put in more details, will do later! Baby on lap!

Osmosis skincare

I'm getting ahead of myself by posting this, but I think I will have enough clients/friends needing this info and I want to be able to refer them back to my blog to get this info.....
Osmosis Skincare: Ask Osmosis: Order of Application: The question that we are asked the most often is "In what order do I apply my products?". This is a great question.  Knowing the proper se...